Apr 5, 2015

Chinni - one worrying subject

Iksha is growing. But we aren't coping or adapting to her growth. I mean, the time and attention given towards her well being, development is little less than it should be. As a working couple, we are struggling. 

Quite a few things to be noted here
1. Her school syllabus is vast, huge. The teaching done at school isn't enough and also proper revision isn't done. The entire burden is shifted onto us. 

2. She is always in a playful mode. Even at 8 pm, she still wants to play. Phew, I as a child never troubled my parents so much. So when should we sit and teach her ? The option left out is tuitions !!! and tuitions at this age ??? 

3. In general, she doesn't accept anything that is told to follow. No matter how many times it's repeated, she commits the same mistake. For e.g: Leave footwear at the doorstep. 

4. I want her to stay away from me and N for a week or two. I just feel she has to go through that process. Want to check will she be able to adapt herself without us being around ?

5. She is such a lovely kid, once I look at her face, my eyes refuse to move away. I prayed to god that "I want a kid who would ask anything and everything she wants". Now I feel, God said "Yes", I regret !!!

6. Her outing ideas are superb. She suddenly wants to end up in a beach. That's exactly being a kid. I regret not doing that as a kid. We really try to fulfil her wishes. 

7. She is missing her sibling. This is one thing I have been thinking off lately, but can't help. She has to pass though this phase. I am being a little selfish here. I want more time for myself, there is more in life than just raising another kid. Another kid would throw my life apart. N would be literally be struggling with Chinni as well. So why another one ??? No !!!

Remembering Dad

Almost a year that Dad left us. Even though life moves on, the impact of his absense is disheartening. I remorse the way he lived last few months. We couldn't do much or we didn't do much, not sure which is the correct statement. 

Whatever it is, he smiled when he talked to me and that keeps lingering in my mind and heart. 

Love you Dad and I miss you.

Getting out of comfort lifestyle

Life is blissful when you get into comfort mode.

Define Comfort mode : I would define it as leading a managed life. Live as the life passes by. Don't ask for more. Don't think of spending extravaganza. Planning a trip could mean saving for couple of months. Unexpected expenses would rip you apart. And a lot many things, but still don't bother, just manage.

I was in comfort mode for probably 2 years now. Once I decided to step out of it, feels like the whole earth's responsibility is on my shoulder, seriously!!! But yeah, I have stepped out and walked a couple of kilometres now. I need to keep going. 

Comfort zone as in profession, lazy lifestyle, contribute to society etc etc. I haven't looked into contributing to society yet, but will soon do. And managing my own interest (chess, cycling, marathons) along with excelling in profession is quite a uphill task. 

I should have stepped out of comfort zone at least 3 to 4 years back. As always, I take time to realise. It takes it own course.